No matter how much the two of you love each other, it can take a little more than love sometimes, to really stick at a relationship and make it work. Relationships are hard work, as it means not putting yourself first anymore. It can mean doing something for someone else that you wouldn’t necessarily enjoy, but it makes them happy. Relationships are about commitment and about happiness in the end. So how can you keep your relationship healthy, happy, and thriving? Here are a few ideas that will make a difference.
Know It Won’t All Be Rosy
Any relationship has its ups and downs. Two people that spend a lot of time together aren’t going to see eye to eye all the time. There might be some political differences that you have or some personality traits that can grate after a while. Having one argument doesn’t have to mean it is over, though. Some people often think that you have to be happy all of the time. The point is how you deal with arguments, though. You can overcome these kinds of thing if you are both committed and happy to do so. You need to learn to forgive and forget so that you can both move on. If you find that one of you can’t, then it could be worth seeking some marriage counseling and relationship therapy to help you through. Otherwise one of you will only hold a grudge, and it will only rear its head later down the line.
Use the Word ‘We’
I think this one just makes sense, right? But there are even studies to back it up that show that couples that use the word ‘we’ when talking about their life or relationship, were much happier and content than those that used the term ‘I’ or ‘me.’ So if you want to feel as one and be happier, then it makes sense to see yourselves as a couple and a ‘we.’ If you don’t then it could show a lack of commitment too.
Use the 3:1 Ratio
Sometimes there will be things that our other half does that annoys us. It will happen. But when it does, there are good ways to deal with it (as well as bad ways, of course). We can use the 3:1 ratio as a way to deal with it. When we talk to our partner, we can let them know what they did upset or annoyed us. But then we can let them know three things that we love about them. It is natural for us to change and overcome those things that are negative. But if all we hear is complaints, from the person who is meant to love us the most, then it can be really hard. So compliment them regularly too.
Even as you age, it is fun to keep the laughter and playfulness of your relationship alive. Play games together and take fun trips. Have jokes and laugh with each other. If your other half says something that bothers you a little, respond with a joke instead of getting offended. It makes life much happier if you do.