The Art Of Engagement

A proposal is probably the time of your life that is the most romantic. Getting engaged is exciting, heart-warming and the step in the right direction of your new life as a fiancé. It’s like levelling up in a game; achievement unlocked!


If you are the person proposing to another, you’ll understand that getting engaged is almost an art. There is a lot of planning and preparation that goes into your engagement and you need to sit down and carefully decide how and when you are going to pop the question. A lot of people love the idea of having a special day that isn’t attached to event, such as Valentine’s Day or Christmas. It can be considered as a cliché to propose on either of these days and yet they are still popular days. You also need to decide whether you are going to throw an engagement party for your families as that’ll likely be in consideration for the budget you set for The Ring.

Proposing to your other half is going to begin a new phase in your life and begin the preparation of a wedding. Unless you are planning for a long engagement, you’ll likely find your new fiancé itching to set a date and contact Pure Invitation for your wedding invites! Let’s slow down those horses though, and talk about the perfect proposal:

  • Location matters. If anyone tells you it doesn’t matter where you do it, they’re lying! Think about your partner and what they love. Think about the places they love to go and the special things they like to do. Are they an adrenaline junkie? Head for the nearest theme park and speak to the hosts there to put on something elaborate. Are they a nature lover? Then you know an outdoor proposal in a field full of sunflowers will go down a treat. Know your person so you can plan where you propose.
  • Tread carefully with a public proposal. Some people love the bells and whistles of a proposal that involves their family and friends. Others would cringe and curl up at the very idea! Know your audience and play to that. A public proposal is romantic in some situations but if there’s the slightest risk of a ‘no’, then don’t end up with egg on your face.
  • Don’t rely on the ring. Your partner is saying yes to you, not the ring you present them with. Make them smile and laugh the day you’re going to pop the question. Do something romantic and spoil them for the day, make them feel like they’re on top of your world. When that ring comes out, they’ll be so dazzled by you that the shine on the ring will be the icing on the cake!

These three tips are all centred mainly about the who and the where, but only you will truly know when you should pop the question. There is no wrong time, whether you are four months or four years into the relationship your proposal can go off without a hitch. Good luck with your impending engagement!

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  1. My late wife was a practical, matter-of-fact person, who liked tradition, so after a romantic Valentine’s dinner, in 1982, out came the ring-which she had helped select-and we had a June wedding, in a place of worship, with a garden reception.
    If I have it to do over again, the lady’s personality and passions would determine both engagement and wedding scenarios, definitely. Nice article, Ula!

  2. Good points! A proposal should be incredibly special and you definitely need to consider the person you’re proposing to when planning. There’s nothing I love more then a good proposal story!

  3. Great post! I got engaged last year (and married a few days ago!), and these points are true. My partner chose a spot where we frequently visit. We had a picnic on Mt Vic in Wellington. Your point is also true about the ring, I didn’t even look at it till we got back home. I just saw him get down on one knee with a box and I immediately said yes (after crying a lot)!

  4. I proposed to my ex-fiance on the Equatorial Line in Ecuador – two world coming together, etc. That relationship blew up and now we don’t speak to one another.

    I told my current wife, “Hey, wanna get married?” That was years ago and today we are happily wed.

    An anecdotal experience, but pertinent nonetheless. Often, the strength of the relationship supercedes the magic of the engagement proposal. The first is forever, the second is momentary.

  5. Good points! Especially about making sure the proposal and setting matches the person’s personality. I’m low-key and hate being put on the spot so I appreciated my husband’s private proposal on Valentine’s Day. I would have still said yes if he’d went public, but would’ve given him heat about putting me on the spot, haha. A proposal is such a lovely intimate moment, so I wanted to have that moment all to myself and shared with my fiance only, not with a bunch of people and their smartphones.

  6. Great post, Ula! I smiled to myself as I read through it because times sure have changed since my wife and I became engaged way back in 1972 when we were both 21 and living with our parents. Most couples back then did things that way. I am now 66 years young and I have never had my own place and lived alone. I’m not complaining! Really!!! We were just starting out with our respective careers, got a lot of help from our families – and had very little control over the wedding details since her parents were paying for the wedding. So, if I had seen this post in April of 1972, I likely would have shrugged and commented, “Do tell!”

  7. I am sure my proposal fell well short of my wife’s expectations and was far removed from what she deserved. I am a romantic at heart but not in practice, I guess. I like this blog. Good stuff, especially for the romantic at heart.


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