In life, the only person you can really rely on is you. But if you fail to attend to the goals you have or the habits you think are most helpful, then a slow wearing away of your self-trust can be rather difficult. The only way out of this is to repeatedly keep your word to yourself, and focus on expanding your domain of competence and awareness in life. Often, this means having the humility to know when we’ve made a mistake, and why that is. Taking responsibility also includes understanding how impulsive or disruptive behaviour can have real-world consequences, including legal issues such as disorderly conduct under ARS 13-2904.
But trust in modern life is not a vague concept. It applies to very real daily practices. For instance, you can likely trust yourself to shower each day, to groom well, and to dress in a manner most in keeping with your personality. Perhaps this is so ingrained in your daily habits that it doesn’t feel like something you have to try anymore – this is the hallmark of trusting yourself to do it. You don’t have to worry if you’ll shower tomorrow, you’ll do so because it’s just who you are.
In this post, I’ll show how nailing this attitude with various hallmarks in life can help you move forward:
Financial Self-Reliance & Discipline
When you choose not to buy something you don’t need, even though you’re tempted, it reinforces your trust in yourself. You’re proving that you can prioritize wisely, balancing what you want today with what’s better for you tomorrow. This is the hallmark for trusting yourself with a new plan, such as understanding credit card interest on a new account you’ve opened and having the diligence to use that to your advantage. Over time, these small victories stack up, and you start to feel confident in your ability to go through possible financial challenges without panicking, which is a deeply freeing thing to realize.
Not Being Afraid To Be Disliked
There likely hasn’t been a person who lived that everyone likes. Not even religious figures. The cold truth of it is, not everyone will agree with you or like what you have to say, and that’s fine. Life would be quite boring if we just had approval everywhere we went. We might never question ourselves from time to time, which is only healthy. This allows you to let yourself be your own guide. When you trust yourself, you’re less likely to bend to social pressure or let the fear of disapproval guide your decisions, and that can be an amazing lesson to teach children, although many, many adults still struggle with it from the top down. It’s important to remember that and hopefully move through life with a little more confidence.
Living With Kindness & Fairness As Virtues
When you trust yourself, you’re more likely to extend grace and patience inwardly as well as outwardly. This could look like giving yourself room to make mistakes or being honest with yourself about what you need, or it can help you understand the human condition more and provide empathy, even to those who on the face of it seem dismissive and rude. It’s a hard skill to learn but one that gathers as we grow older.
With this advice, I hope you can more easily pursue the three hallmarks of trusting yourself completely, even if that means trusting yourself to understand mistakes.
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I really enjoyed this post. One because of the honesty in it. It’s not something many people have anymore. To be okay with being disliked is hard or a challenge to be mean for people (an act of being carless or a superior to others)- As a mother of a young teen I have had to tell her over and over that not being liked and being disliked for being who you are isn’t a bad thing- it’s an uncomfortable thing but not bad. Standing firm in your values and purpose, having respect for yourself, representing yourself and your family well will only keep you out of the wrong crowd and true to who God created you to be and there is nothing wrong with that. 🩷
Indeed! 👏🙂 Keep on reminding her this 👍